At the young age of 21 I found out I was pregnant with my first child. My second child arrived when I was 23, and the third at age 25. Only a year later, I had my fourth. I was with the same boyfriend for the first and second child, but after the birth of my second, my boyfriend and I broke up. I started seeing another man, and that’s when the third pregnancy happened. For this pregnancy, I chose adoption. The biological father of this baby and I were discussing the option of raising the baby together, but when I was about 2 months pregnant we broke up. I didn’t want to raise the baby by myself, plus the two I already had, and I didn’t want the stress of raising them by myself to negatively affect all of the children. Since abortion was not an option, after a lot of thought, much heartache and decision making between the biological father and me, we decided adoption was the best option.
Adoption Associates was absolutely amazing. They were very informative, supportive, comforting and welcoming. Janet, my caseworker was so helpful. It was way more than I had expected and all very appreciated.
I asked my caseworker what the limit was on how many profiles I could review. She gave me approximately 10-15 for the first round. I put the one’s I liked aside, and told her I would like some more. She gave me about 5 more. So I went through all of those and out of all the profiles that I read (and I read and reread them all very carefully!) I had narrowed it down to 3 potential families for my unborn baby. After asking my current boyfriend who he would pick, I was down to two. So I decided that I would have the bio father decide. He actually picked the couple that I had first picked, which happened to be the second profile I read.
It was just two days later that I would meet them at the office. I wasn’t really nervous about meeting the potential parents of my daughter, but more nervous about how they would feel about me! But when I met them we immediately clicked. After talking for about an hour and getting to know one another, on our way out we exchanged numbers and gave hugs. They told me that it was the best day of their lives and just seeing their smiles and knowing how happy I just had made them was an incredible feeling. It made me feel so blessed to be able to give them this life and to give a wonderful set of parents to my child. As soon as my caseworker drove me home, I immediately sent a text message to the adoptive mother and she was ecstatic! After I officially chose them to be the parents, during the next several months they came to all my check-ups. They were so supportive!
The birth was amazing. I remember waking up in the morning with contractions. They lasted all day. The adoptive parents met me at the hospital that evening and soon things were rolling. I made sure they were a part of the birthing process. They were in the room the entire time as I wanted them to be able to tell my baby girl the exact experience they shared. We spent a couple days in the hospital and I was able to have my time with her and they were able to have their time as well. I had left before they did, so they could enjoy their time with her together that last hour or two before she was able to leave. I couldn’t have asked for a better adoptive family.
I feel so blessed because I see her occasionally, communicate by phone, email, and text whenever I like and I also receive pictures and letters in the mail. I couldn’t be happier with the decision I made. Adoption was so right for all of us!
25 years old
Single mother of 2 children
Birth father supportive