A Birthmother’s Reflection: Connie

I was forty-two years old when I found out I was pregnant. Divorced with four children, I was living paycheck to paycheck with my teenage daughter in a small two bedroom apartment. I had a low paying job and no health insurance. When I took an at-home pregnancy test and it came out positive, I thought it had to be wrong. The next day I [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Connie2017-06-12T17:42:27-04:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Kristina

I chose adoption for my daughters when I was twenty-three. I was raised by a single mother who was an alcoholic. She fancied abusive relationships, and moving was like breathing for us. She died in a car accident when I was seventeen; the drunk driver that killed her was herself. With no family to speak of, I soon was headed in the same direction. To [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Kristina2017-06-12T17:42:33-04:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Ashley

At the beginning of my sophomore year in college, I was headed down a dangerous path. I had my own apartment, I could drink and go out partying whenever I wanted, and I had a boyfriend from my hometown who wasn’t going down the right path. An A student in high school, my grade point average soon shot down to a 1.9. That semester, I [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Ashley2017-06-12T17:41:29-04:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Sarah

I was 23 and already had one child when I found out I was pregnant again. I was in shock. I must have taken four or five tests just to be sure. I didn’t want to disappoint my family and friends, and I was terrified they would disown me. I was afraid because I didn’t know how I was going to handle raising another baby. [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Sarah2017-06-12T17:42:42-04:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Jennifer

I was seventeen and still in my senior year of high school when I found out I was pregnant. At first, I was scared and I didn’t know what I was going to do. I was dating the father of my child, but we broke up soon after I discovered I was pregnant. I knew he wouldn’t be in the picture anymore. I didn’t want [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Jennifer2017-06-12T17:42:48-04:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Emily

When I found out I was pregnant, I was twenty years old, living at home, and unemployed. An unplanned pregnancy was the last thing that I ever thought would happen to me, and I must have taken six pregnancy tests to be sure. I didn’t tell my parents right away because I knew that they would be upset with me, and I thought it would [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Emily2017-06-12T17:42:55-04:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Ashley

Ashley came into the McDonalds, anxiously looking for someone who "looked" like an Adoption Case Worker. She ordered fries and a soda and found a seat in the back of the fast food restaurant where she could watch everyone coming in. The Case Worker she spoke to sounded nice on the phone and she answered all her questions with out cutting her off, even when [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Ashley2017-06-12T17:41:41-04:00

Birth Mother Reflections…Looking Back Twenty Years Later

In many ways some of us are very similar. We have had our hearts broken, walked through fire, and lived to talk about it. My story starts as a little girl growing up. I attended a Christian school and my family attended church twice every Sunday. I had a great upbringing, never lacked for anything……until 1988. I was ten years old. It was a Sunday [...]

Birth Mother Reflections…Looking Back Twenty Years Later2017-02-24T00:17:55-05:00

Thank You, Birth Mother

I have always known that I was an adopted child. My earliest memories include a bedtime prayer that contained, "Thank God that I'm 'dopted." I was six weeks old when my parents took me home. They had struggled with infertility for seven years. During the late fifties and early sixties people did not openly discuss this sensitive and personal issue as they do today. My [...]

Thank You, Birth Mother2017-02-24T00:15:24-05:00

How one birthmother made her birth plan

When you are a little girl you don't spend your days imagining having a baby only to choose to give her away to another family. So when I was asked what I wanted to do when the time came for my delivery and placement of my little girl, I had absolutely no idea. I naively imagined that the doctors and nurses would just quietly take [...]

How one birthmother made her birth plan2017-05-18T14:29:36-04:00